Comments on Criss writes...: Rape, Roethlisberger, and #HR3

The rapists you haven't forgiven have no probl...

2011-02-20T20:19:17.063-06:00

The rapists you haven't forgiven have no problem sleeping either.

How nice that you share in their arrogance.

"But I forgive you." WHEW! Thanks! I a...

2011-02-20T16:25:29.485-06:00

"But I forgive you."

WHEW!

Thanks! I am SO GLAD. Now I can sleep at night.

"And, though I should, I have a hard time for...

2011-02-10T05:35:38.703-06:00

"And, though I should, I have a hard time forgiving unrepentant rapists. I'm not likely to turn the other cheek in this case."

Admitting to sin, knowing you should change and then doing nothing about it just compounds your sins (probably daily). It reeks of pride and arrogance.

And I have a hard time forgiving unrepentant abortionists and proaborts who speak out in favoring of killing preborn humans. (yes, there are unrepentant rapists who do not believe they did anything wrong -- deep down I think they know just like deep down you know that abortion is wrong).

It is hard, but I forgive you and every unrepentant proabort. I will never accept what you support and promote. I will always speak out in opposition to what you encourage as a legitimate choice.

But I forgive you.

Obviously I need clarification, or I wouldn't ...

2011-02-09T11:12:08.813-06:00

Obviously I need clarification, or I wouldn't have asked the question. I believe it was a 'yes or no' kind of question.

Also, please note that I have been perusing the 'feminist' blogs, many that have been posting on this subject. It must be scary to be a man in your (the big 'your') world.

Regardless of what we may wish to believe, women are not entirely without blame for the culture of 'victim blaming'. Every woman who has falsely accused a man of rape is also to blame.

Seems you have tried and convicted all the men you are talking about, as have others. What happened to innocent until proven guilty? And here's a good research topic - do a study on the lives of men after they have been falsely accused AND convicted (or even just brought to trial on a charge) of rape. Same thing happens to their attackers. Nothing. Same thing happens to their lives. Destroyed. It's not about what the majority of cases are or aren't. It's about individual lives that are destroyed. I'll bet there are still kids in that school who talk about the teacher who was falsely accused as if he was guilty.

And leave me out of your "we" (as in we always blame the victim not the attacker). Society as a whole has made rape a difficult case to bring to trial and prove. There's enough blame to go around.

Graham: the bill is called the "No Tax Fundin...

2011-02-08T22:52:18.193-06:00

Graham: the bill is called the "No Tax Funding For Abortion Bill." They were trying to redefine rape in order to put more limitations on low-income women seeking abortion -- the Hyde Amendment forbids tax fund to pay for abortion except in cases of rape, incest, or when the mother's life is in danger. By calling it "forcible rape" (and requiring women to "prove" it was "forcible" because they have bruises and broken bones) they were putting even more obstacles in a woman's way. (Wasn't the Assange case in Sweden? US law shouldn't come into play at all in that...)

ProSanity: yes, there are cases where someone has been wrongfully accused of sexual assault. A teacher at the school where I used to work was suspended for I don't know how long because a student claimed the teacher had "come on to him", or something. It quickly came out the student was lying (upset about a grade, he bragged to his friends about getting the teacher fired), and the teacher was able to return to work.

I also know of another case where a student misinterpreted a teacher's comment, and accused the teacher of inappropriate conduct.

There are cases where the person accused of sexual assault or misconduct are innocent. But not EVERY case. Not even HALF of the cases. But the way our society responds to accusations of rape or sexual assault is by blaming the victim, slut-shaming the victim, defending the attacker (especially if he is rich, or famous, or invented a really cool website -- because we all know that people who do one cool thing could never do, like, something uncool).

We ALWAYS doubt (and attack) the victim.

Yes, falsely accusing someone of rape is a bad thing. It can have serious repercussions in that person's life. But, you know, raping someone is also a really bad thing. And it has very serious repercussions in that person's life.

Let's give the victim the benefit of the doubt at least as often as we give it to the criminal.

Anonymous: When did I say that? When did I imply that?

JustUs: Yes, that is our job. However, I, like many other people on this planet, am human, and therefore flawed. I make mistakes. I sin. That's one of the very reasons why Jesus died in the cross, because humans cannot escape sinning. And, though I should, I have a hard time forgiving unrepentant rapists. I'm not likely to turn the other cheek in this case.

"Rapistberger" I thought "Our job ...

2011-02-08T06:11:57.127-06:00

"Rapistberger"

I thought "Our job is to "LOVE one another as [Jesus] loved [us]." Not judge, not intimidate, just LOVE."

So, are you saying women never lie about being rap...

2011-02-07T17:46:02.755-06:00

So, are you saying women never lie about being raped?

Okay, let me start by saying, I don't know WHA...

2011-02-06T23:25:36.325-06:00

Okay, let me start by saying, I don't know WHAT I believe. I'll be the first to admit I didn't follow the case too closely, it was a tainted view here in western PA anyway. I was waiting to see what happened in court.
I'd like to say innocent until proven guilty, but in cases like this I'm hesitant. I don't want to say she made it up, or it never happened, because it probably did. I don't know.
The problem is, he's so protected that there can never be a true investigation like there would have been for any other alleged rape. (I only say alleged because I do not know what happened.)
I wish men like Roethlisberger would use their position of fame to PREVENT terrible things from happening instead of CAUSING them.
I wish we could stop the violence of crimes like rape.
I don't know where I was going with this.
Except I'm confused, and I don't know who to believe.
A similar case happened around my hometown lately. A guy who graduated a year ahead of me was accused (now convicted) of rape that occured a few years ago, when the girl was 10. Along with other charges. This is terrible.
But so is nowing that the girl's mother is unstable. The girl herself is unstable. She's accused her brothers, her step-dad, a majority of male family members of terrible acts.
So how much is reality, and how much is fantasy scared into a little girl because she has no idea the impact of what she's saying?
I knew the kid, and I'd never leave my little sister with him. But I don't now if I FULLY believe every word the girl said (she messed up in court and claimed he sexually abused her while he wasn't in the country...honest mistake, or confusion from too many stories in her head?)
I just don't know.
I wish the truth was easier than one person's word against another.

Actually, the Roethlisberger victim really did rep...

2011-02-06T10:41:19.947-06:00

Actually, the Roethlisberger victim really did report it right away. The reason they didn't prosecute was because of some malfeasance by an officer on the scene who didn't take her claims seriously.

As for the House bill, since junked, I think they were aiming to prevent rape charges like one of the ones against Julian Assange, in which the accuser decided it was rape a couple of days later when she learned Assange was sleeping with someone else.